Posts from ‘Parenting’
For the last few years, I’ve majorly stressed out over Halloween. There was this post Oh Halloween… you stress me out where I detailed all the ways the holiday freaked me out… and then this one where I worked on empowering my little one before she could read: How to help kids with food allergies on Halloween.
This year, somehow in the business of it all, I decided to just roll with it… to keep the emphasis on fun and not on “staying safe.” Of course I worked hard to keep her safe – but it was all in my head, something I took accountability for and let her focus on the fun. And I’m happy to say it worked.
Maybe it’s because I’m older and wiser… or because she’s older and wiser… we’ve both been doing this food allergy thing for nearly 6 years now. And this was the best Halloween we’ve had yet!
Wow, to think just a year ago I was a complete bundle of nerves waiting for my little one with food allergies to start Kindergarten. And WHAM suddenly the year flew by and we’re getting ready to begin first grade in just a few days.
Some of you have asked for updates on Avery’s first year in school and how things went with food allergy management. We had a successful year – there were no food allergy reactions at school or after-school care the entire year. I never received the “dreaded phone call” and my daughter was able to focus her energy on learning to read and making friends.
My first stop in the morning is always to my children’s bedrooms to say “good morning.” Yesterday I found these two cuties having fun together in Alex’s room. I was struck by their sleepy eyes, messy hair and big smiles. And in their cute pajama sets and Avery in her robe. It was one of those moments I wanted to remember forever. So much so that I had an overwhelming urge to go find my phone so I could take a picture. And even though it turned out grainy and a bit blurry, it captured the essence – the love and happiness – of the moment. And the graininess is reminiscent of the pictures my parents took of me when I was a kid in the ’70s. I loved the moment and I loved the picture of the moment. I can already imagine showing it to them when they’re teenagers.
When my marriage ended, nearly five years ago, I didn’t know anyone my age who had been through the same thing, especially not anyone with small children. I longed for someone to talk to who would understand first hand what I was going through.
Now, sadly, more and more of my friends are also getting divorced. Nearly every month or so I get a call or email from a friend, acquaintance or blog reader looking for advice and comfort – hoping to talk to someone who understands. And while I’m always sad to hear about anyone struggling in their relationship, I’m grateful I’m able to lend an ear and offer a few tidbits of experience that may help.
I’m certainly no expert on divorce, nor do I want to be. I’m not an attorney or counselor or a minister and I’m certainly not a relationship expert. But as someone who has been through a divorce, I know some of my personal experiences can help others when they find themselves in this very difficult situation. Here are some of the things I share with friends looking for help:
Last month we traveled to Florida by airplane. It was the first time my children have flown, and it was a very big deal for us, especially since my daughter has severe food allergies. She is allergic to peanuts, tree nuts (all other nuts), shellfish, eggs and melons. I had many concerns getting ready for the trip – I was worried about peanut residue on the plane and if people would be eating peanuts around us.
I’m happy to report everything went well. Here are some of things we did to prepare: